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A goofy kid just trying to make sense of the world while trying to be Asian American


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My Insecurities at SFSU and My Love For The Stifmeister – #SAP EP09 (Clip)

In this clip, I talk about how it was hard for me to open up in college due to my high school education insecurities. It was no secret that being a child of Asian immigrants, we don’t value arts and literature as highly as “practical” subjects. *cough* math, science, doctor *cough*

Growing up, I never read for fun. I only read when school forced me to write a paper. I only read what I needed to read that I couldn’t get off SparkNotes and the early days of Wikipedia. So, entering college, I did not have a deep connection with the arts and literature. This wasn’t much of a problem during my GE-fraternity-rave-party days. But when I declared Creative Writing as a major at San Francisco State University, I was at a huge disadvantage. Thus, making me very insecure with my opinions in my classes. I was not as well read as some of my writing peers.

Of course, being the immature person I was, I took this very personally and lashed out in my workshops and literary discourse. Instead of putting myself out there and trying to participate, I instead choose to try and play a stereotype, what those “hipster” kids in my classes probably thought of me. Yes, I know, I was stupid. But hey, we are always learning and growing, right?

Well, anyway, I hope you enjoy this clip about my painful journey into the arts. If you are also felt like college was intimidating let me know down below…or if you also wanna share your love for Seann William Scott or country music line dancing or WHATEVER!!!

*This video is a clip from #SAP EP09 “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski poem discussion with Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations. So the audio is still distorted and Cpt Ahab picture was replaced. And yes, I know the thumbnail isn’t grammatically correct.

*This video is a clip from #SAP EP09 “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski poem discussion with Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations. So the audio is still distorted and Cpt Ahab picture was replaced. And yes, I know the thumbnail isn’t grammatically correct.

 

#sorryasianparents EP09 link in bio or here:

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Blog:
https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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Disappointing My Asian Parents With My English Degree and Not Doctor – #SAP EP09 (CLIP)

 

In this clip, I’m talking about how I eventually decided on choosing Creative Writing as my major at San Francisco State University. Being a first-generation Asian American in your family to go to a four-year university and deciding to become a writer is not something any immigrant parents want to hear. But to be fair, I took three and a half years to pick a major after realizing that you can’t major in Partying with a minor in Beer Pong. So there was no chance in hell I was gonna be a doctor. . .or lawyer. . .or whatever stereotypical model minority career my parents wanted.

Imagine escaping Laos and Thailand during the Vietnam War just to see their firstborn pick a prospering career as a writer. But I guess at this point; I’m more of an entertainer…or clown…whichever.

Salutationsandgoodvibrations and I also talk about some of the challenges we had growing up in Visalia. And believe me, there were many. In my case, it was how I viewed education, arts, and literature. I didn’t read too much in my own free time since my parents put more of an emphasis on subjects that would traditionally generate more money.

My parents weren’t the only ones who thought the arts were unnecessary in the Asian college plan. The friends I grew up with also weren’t too keen on the idea of being books smarts. Instead, we goons focused more on street smarts, believing that arts and education weren’t meant for kids from the block. Luckily, we grew out of this hoodrat mentality as we grew older.

Lots of stuff to unpack here. You’ll hear about how we found our passions and the obstacles we jumped **cough** getting out of Visalia right after high school **cough** to pursue our dreams. Don’t worry; these painful anecdotes of self-discovery aren’t too cringy if you sprinkle some dark humor on the trauma.

If you want to share your story about being Asian, or Asian American, or just as someone who felt they let their parents down, feel free to comment below. Let’s share and wallow because misery loves company.

*This video is a clip from #SAP EP09 “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski poem discussion with Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations. So the audio is still distorted and Cpt Ahab picture was replaced. And yes, I know the thumbnail isn’t grammatically correct.

#sorryasianparents EP09 link in bio or here:

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Blog:
https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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#sorryasianparents EP09 – Bukowski Quotes About Going 100 w Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations

Hello, hello,

Welcome back. I’m back home in Los Angeles, where I finally have time to put some finishing touches on a video to upload. In this episode, my friends Salutationsandgoodvibrations and Cpt Ahab are with me to talk about the poem “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski.

What does it mean to “go all the way”? How do you define success? Why do people be fronting on these social media sites and dating apps? These are the questions we will be discussing in this video. I don’t know if you will find a clear answer during your time with us, but I’m sure you’ll have a few good laughs.

Alongside these philosophical questions of pursuing your passions, I will also be discussing how I decided to major in Creative Writing at San Francisco State University. As well as briefly discussing how growing up in Visalia influenced my views on art and literature, how I disappointed my Asian parents about my career choice, and about how much I love Seann William Scott. Yes, the Stifmeister.

I apologize in advance if this video sounds like a conversation between a bunch of bored college kids. Well, I mean, what else are we gonna do during quarantine. Also, the audio’s pitch is a little high, and Ahab’s picture is covered by your friendly neighborhood Asian: me. This was intentional. So, yeah. Sorry about that, too.

But I hope you guys do enjoy the video. Feel free to comment below if you have something to say about the poem written by this German-American poet or if you just wanna share how you view success.

“Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski

If you’re going to try, go all the way.
Otherwise, don’t even start.
If you’re going to try, go all the way.
This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives, jobs and maybe even your mind.
It could mean not eating for three or four days.
It could mean freezing on a park bench.
It could mean jail.
It could mean derision, mockery, isolation.
Isolation is the gift.
All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it.
And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds.
And it will be better than anything else you can imagine.
If you’re going to try, go all the way.
There is no other feeling like that.
You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire.
DO IT. DO IT. DO IT. All the way
You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is.

Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
00:29 – Cpt Ahab Starts Us Off By Reading The Bukowski Quote
01:18 – What Does “Going All The Way Means”?
05:00 – Pursuing Your Dreams And The Value Of An Creative Writing Degree
10:10 – You Have To Put In The Work To Get What You Want In Life
17:30 – Attempt Different Things To Define Your Own Version Of Success
20:57 – Disappointing My Asian Parents By Picking An English Major In College
28:38 – Growing Up In Visalia And How We Handled Education
36:25 – How Visalias’ Environment And Immigrant Cultural Influenced My View On Art
40:00 – Me Feeling Insecure About My Lack of Literature Knowledge At SFSU
41:27 – Me Telling My Playwriting Class My Favorite Actor Is Seann William Scott
46:47 – The Authetisicty Of Your Opinions VS What Everyone Else Thought Was Cool
50:18 – What Is Even Real On Social Media And Dating Apps? Just Be Yourself
57:53 – Line Dancing At The Saddle Rack and Saying Goodbye To Cpt Ahab

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Blog:
https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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#sorryasianparents EP08 – WallStreetBets, GameStop, and Reddit: Millennials Using the Internet

 

Emilio, Justice, Rocky, and I discuss the recent Reddit vs. Wall Street Stock Market War. WE ARE NOT A FINANCIAL ADVISING CHANNEL NOR EXPERTS. We are just a couple of average Joes trying to make sense of all this craziness and having a conversation about the stuff that happened. So please, take what we say with a grain of salt. But the two things that I did learn was that if we all work together, we can cyber bull those a-holes who are screwing us and meme our dreams into reality.

Honestly, no matter where you stand on this GME thing, I’m glad it happened because now people my age, from different social and ethnic classes, who never thought about their financial future, are now getting into investing. Growing up poor and lacking the knowledge about the market, I know I didn’t even give it a second thought besides a 401k or IRA.

Though there are still many things to learn, this baby step is in the right direction. The Internet (YouTube, Reddit, Discord, and Blogs) are great places to learn and dip your toes if you are intimidated by all the information or seeing a financial advisor. If you can afford it and don’t want to deal with it, get a FA. Heck, I’m still learning, but now I know I’m not alone.

PS, I want to apologize if the video seemed a little rushed….because it was. I had to leave town for some business and did not have time to edit properly. Nor write a good/witty description. There’s also more to this video that I had to cut out. When I return, I’ll add the rest of the video and add timestamps.

#sorryasianparents EP06 – Learning About Investing: https://youtu.be/VuGMdSdOK28

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAAPUjWCbTcS1w3fiGwXcdg

Laughinoutlao Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/laughinoutlao

Weebthusiast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/


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Playing HS Football in Visalia and the Fat Airec Chant – #SAP EP03

 

With a bunch of free time on my hands, I decided to go back and clip some of my older videos. This here video is from EP03 with Kevin, Andrew, and Chris, where we are talking about growing up in Visalia. In this clip, we talk about some cringy things we did in high school and talked about what it was like to play on a losing football team. It’s ok to laugh at us; I know I would. 

If you have any stories about high school and football growing pains, feel free to write them down below.

 

Video link right here:

https://youtu.be/TnoPsp3nB7Q

Original video:

https://youtu.be/AwswaggRZ7Y

Weebthusiast Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

#sorryasianparents Blog:

https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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My COVID Story and Trying to Remember High School Bio – #SAP EP01.3

 

This video is part of the original recording I did with Daniel for my #sorryasianparents YouTube Channel. In this clip, I’m telling him about my COVID experience…Then we horribly try to explain how a virus works using our English Degree from SFSU. Boy, our biology teachers would be mad. We deff fail at this Asian part of our lives. All for laughs, am I right?


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#sorryasianparents EP06 – Better Late Than Never: Finally Becoming Invested In Our Financial Future

Heeeellloooo,

I am back and this time with some new faces. Truth be told, I don’t know anything about finances. And it’s probably not surprising that many millennials, who also grew up poor, don’t “got dat money smarts” either. Thankfully, I have Rocky, Robert, Jan, and Josh here to explain to me stuff I should have known before I racked up all that credit card debt.

Join us as we talk about the stock market, cryptocurrency, big banks, the lack of financial education within the American public education system, and many more. I’m sure you’re tired of hearing that one friend who knows-it-all yap on about Bitcoin. Which is why I think you’ll enjoy a bunch of amateurs give their take on coins and stocks and what it all means for someone just dipping their feet in the investment pool.

A fair warning, even though we do give out some advice based on our investing journey, please take it with a grain of salt. Like a few of your bankers, we are not fiduciaries. What we know we learned from Reddit, YouTube, and failing. If you want some hardcore advice, then you’re probably in the wrong place. This video is just for some laughs as we discuss our scary, uncertain financial future. Oh, these student loans!!!


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#SorryAsianParents EP04 Post-Election Thoughts w/ Yanez and Jerry

Heeelllllooooo,

Welcome back! I am still here and making these ever-so-long videos. Usually, we try to keep things light and comical, cuz, you know, sorry Asian parents, but this time we are going dark . . . wayyy dark. As you may know, the 2020 election has happened, and we’re currently still in the mix of everything, so we’re going to beat a dead horse, or elephant, that’s still in the room. My friend Yanez and Jerry will be joining me today to talk about how we feel post-election, post-Trump (if he leaves the White House), and everything in between. 

I know that this topic is hot and everyone has their opinion and we have ours. In this video, we will share a few laughs, give our spicy take on things, and probably step on a few toes . . . so keep that in mind if you do decide to watch this. Whether you agree with our opinions or not, I ask just keep an open mind and remember this is just a conversation with three civilians trying to understand our political state in today’s America. Also, I tried to fact-check every statement that we made to cover our asses in case we needed to. For everything else, there’s Google.

We recorded this video on Friday the 13th! I would have had this video out sooner if I didn’t have to edit some stuff out (like the Jordan Klepper segment on The Daily Show, “The Divinity of Donald Trump.”) 

*Disclaimer (again)

We’re not political experts or anything; we’re just concerned citizens who wanted to talk about the 2020 election and how it has affected our lives. If you feel as if our conversation might offend you, then you should probably STOP WATCHING now. We mean no harm and don’t want to offend. We are just here to have some laughs while getting some things off our chest. 

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

00:45 – Welcoming Yanez And Jerry (Ancient Astronaut Theorist)

03:55 – AZ Turning Blue For Biden And Native Turnout

05:49 – Obama Stopping The Keystone Pipelines

09:00 – Obama vs. Trump Immigrant Deportations

12:20 – Trump’s COVID Policies, Travel “Ban”

13:05 – COVID Cases And Life in America

20:30 – Trump’s Immigrant Policies Affecting Farming And Taxes

31:43 – Latinos For/Against Trump

38:55 – Trump’s Tax Plans For Small Businesses And Middle Class

46:00 – Trickle Down Economics, Social Programs, And Medicare For All

50:00 – Why Aren’t We Talking About Corporate Welfare And Robbing The CAREs Act

55:10 – Why Are We Naturally Prone To Discrimination

1:00:00 – United State’s History w/ Discrimination And Women For Trump

1:02:10 – Trump’s (Un)Shocking History w/ Women

1:08:50 – Parler And Other Trumper’s SAFE SPACE/Snowflakes

1:13:19 – Trump Getting COVID and Hydroxychloroquine

1:16:00 – Trump’s Lawyers Bailing On Voter Fraud Court Cases  

1:18:00 – The Trump Campaign Still Asking For Money

1:20:40 – Biden Isn’t The Answer, AOC And Young Progressives Making Noise

1:26:00 – Hypocrisy On Why People Voting For Biden Because He’s Not Trump

1:27:00 – Trump Dealings w/ China (Pocketing $15 Million)

1:31:00 – What Do The Trump Supporters Do Now?

1:35:30 – Trump Tax Loophole And Tax Money Funneled To Trump Businesses

1:39:00 – Why We Think Less Wealthy People Support Trump

1:42:00 – Even Trump And His Top Donors Received Social Programs

1:42:30 – How Do We Heal? Where Do We Go From Here?

1:55:00 – GOP And Trump Supporters Being Hypocrites About Voter Fraud 

1:59:30 – GOP New “Legal” Voter Suppression Tactics and Stacey Abrams Kicking Ass

2:05:00 – Saying Our Goodbyes And Fantasy Football Stories

 


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#SorryAsianParents Ep03 Stupid Stories About Growing Up in Visalia and Sucking at HS Football

 

Hi hi,

So this was supposed to come out last Friday, and I couldn’t post it because I was working on a farm. No Internet and knuckles deep in three different types of manure…not fun.

On this ep, we got ourselves a foursome. Kevin, Chris, Andrew will be joining me to talk about some of the stupid things we did growing up in Visalia, CA. Spoiler alert, we did them because we were bored, so we drank a lot. We also talk a little about playing high school football. Not that we were good or anything….we sucked, so now we’re just laughing at ourselves, talking about how it was growing up in Visalia.

If you want to laugh at some kids being dumb @$$ or hear of what we think of our hometown today, give us a go…pretty, please. Also, share your “legal” stories too. If you got them.

PS!!!! I just now realized I forgot to add a title to my last video….Yes, I am a dumbass.


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#SorryAsianParents – Kevin Telling Stories About His Father

 

Hi hi,

On this segment of SorryAsianParents, Kevin Chang will be joining me in my tiny apartment to catch up. He is one of my longtime friends from high school. We played football together and raised a little hell: disappointing our Asian parents one party at a time.

In our conversation, Kevin will tell me what he’s been up to, a bit of Hmong history during the Vietnam War, and about his family. We will gingerly touch on his relationship with his father….and you know how we Asian kids be with our Asian fathers. I want to thank him for sharing his family’s history with me, and now with you. Despite how many of us (first-generation Asian Americans) share the same story as Kevin and I, we are reluctant to talk about these small incidences that have shaped our lives. So let’s try and normalize it!!!

I’m honored he agreed to share his story with me and allowed me to post it on my passion project.  If y’all have any stories to tell about Laos, people from Southeast Asian, immigrant stories, or any tales of trying to live up to an Asian father (or mother), feel free to comment below and tell us. I know Kevin would love to hear other people’s experiences.

ps. I’m sorry for some of the framerate dropping here and there. I am in the process of getting new hardware soon so fingers crossed the next videos will run smoother. Bye, bye!!!