#SorryAsianParents

A goofy kid just trying to make sense of the world while trying to be Asian American


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Ireland 2022 Trip – Don’t Let Little Lion Man Go

A collection of videos and photos from my Ireland trip set to Lane 8’s “Don’t Let me Go” and Mumfords and Son’s “Little Lion Man.” I, obviously, don’t own any of the music and am not monetizing this video so in no way or form, I am making money from this. I just want to share my adventures with the amazing people I was with….and I also have the receipts for these songs in case anyone comes looking!

This is also my second attempt at making a video like this. After viewing it a few times I noticed there were some spots where I could have made the edits tighter but I will keep that in mind for the next time I try my hand at another music video.

Links to my other social/channels
Personal Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/airecsy/
Weebthusiast YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

sorryasianparents Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Weebthusiast Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

sorryasianparents Blog | https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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#sorryasianparents EP16 – The Nickel Arcade and Being Hoodrats in Visalia

Hi hi, sorry for the long hiatus, but I’ve been gone on a holiday in Ireland. I should have some videos about that coming out soon. But here is a recording where Will and Erick joined me in a conversation about growing up in Visalia as nerdy hoodrats. We talk about what it was like in a multicultural community, racism, economic disparity, being nerds, finding anime, and being hoodrats running around the ghettos of the Central Valley.

If you have your own stories about growing up in Visalia or being a nerdy hoodrat, comment down below!

Link to the second part of this recording (the realllll weeby anime stuff)
Weebthusiast EP12 | https://youtu.be/ksyWX87ffGA

Timestamps
0:00:00 – The Oh Wow Nickel Arcade
1:10:48 – Skipping School to Eat at Gumbo and the Buffet at Adventure Park
1:20:41 – Being First-Generation Kids without Adult Supervision
1:31:48 – Rebelling Against my Asian Parents and Finding my Crew and Avoiding Gangs
1:41:44 – How I found Anime and The New Generation of Kids in Visalia
1:51:55 – My DDR Story and the Beef Between Fresno and Visalia Nerds
1:04:23 – I Love Growing up in the Central Valley and Bless Nobles Mom’s Heart

Links to my other social/channels
Weebthusiast YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

sorryasianparents Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Weebthusiast Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

sorryasianparents Blog | https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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Getting to Know JustJovani | #sorryasianparents

I sat down with local Bay Area DJ JustJovani to talk about his debut release, “It’s All the Same,” on DTL Records. The interview was over an hour, but this is just 30 minutes of essential bits of knowing Jovani Melendez. I will release the entire video in a few days, but you’ll have to make do with the Cliftnotes version.

Below are links to his new track, socials, and a show he will be playing this weekend.

A Sokyo Soiree (Feb10) | https://www.eventbrite.com/e/a-sokyo-soiree-tickets-232000719397

JustJovani Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/justjovani
JustJovani Spotify | https://open.spotify.com/track/1vig80qfKpRWIKNQN83Cis
JustJovani Email | justjovanimusic@gmail.com
Soundcloud | https://soundcloud.com/justjovani

My social/channel links:
Weebthusiast YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

sorryasianparents Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Weebthusiast Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

sorryasianparents Blog | https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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#sorryasianparents EP15 – When Are You Too Old For Your Hobbies and The Rise of Nerd Culture

Hi hi, I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted a video on this channel (life is still crazy), but I’m still here and bugging my friends to make podcasts with me. In this episode, Laura and Lance join me in a conversation about the rise of nerd culture and how things are…better? I guess. We also dive into discussions about what it means to be an American and find your identity and sexual identity during the growing pains of high school.

About an hour was cut out of this episode for the sake of time and will be released as shorter clips later. So watch out for those.

Comment below if you have any geeky stories you want to share, or tell us what it means to be an American. 

Timestamps

00:00 – Growing up with Pokemon, When are you too old to enjoy your hobbies?

07:00 – Back in high school, freaks and geeks were not popular

15:00 – Redefining what is popular in mainstream America…and talking about P***

25:00 – Talking about WWII and my UBER Pool story about the Pacific War

32:35 – Gatekeeping now with the rise of nerd culture and fandom

40:55 – High school was a weird time, finding yourself, and Lance’s story about being g@y in HS

45:49 – Last words about finding ourselves and advice for those who are still searching

Other social/channel links:

Weebthusiast YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Weebthusiast Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Blog | https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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#sorryasianparents EP14 | Affected Our Careers, Goals, and Dreams

Hello hello!

It has been some time since my last upload. I’m finally back in LA after traveling for work the previous three months…and, you know, trying to get my life together. On my first video back from hiatus, my two amazing friends, Lance and Garrett, will be joining me to discuss how our careers and goals have changed in the aftermath of Rona. 

This episode will talk about The Great Resignation and some of the challenges that come with changing vocation or dreams or whatever we’re doing to pay the bills. We will discuss how our mentality has changed since our time in college and how it’s changed since facing a pandemic where we had to quarantine for 15 months. Along with the talk about change, we briefly touch upon mental health because these times have been hard for everyone. Below will be a list of resources if you need someone to talk to or a helping hand. 

Comment below if you want to share how your career, goals, and dreams have shifted since the 2020 catastrophe. And also do the thumbs up and subscribe and all that stuff. 

***Some MENTAL HEALTH services***

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline | 1-800-273-8255 | https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

LAist Mental Health Support Article | https://laist.com/news/health/need-some-mental-health-support-start-here

California HOPE | 1-833-317-HOPE (4673) | https://www.calhope.org/

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration | 1-800-662-HELP (4357) | https://www.samhsa.gov

***Links to some of the things I mentioned***

Red Snow | https://www.facebook.com/redsnowthemovie

Casey Faris | https://www.youtube.com/user/CaseyFaris777

MrAlexTech | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTmY-LBmbLugkJ0ryZfjZTQ

Trash Taste | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcmxOGYGF51T1XsqQLewGtQ

***Links to my other social/channels***

Weebthusiast YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Weebthusiast Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAAPUjWCbTcS1w3fiGwXcdg

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Saying to Lance and Garrett

00:02:00 – College Life/Leaving Our Parents House and Our First Crappy Apartments

00:08:55 – How Our Careers Shifted with COVID and Learning New Skills

00:23:43 – Challenging Yourself Can Be Scary but Exciting

00:35:54 – Having Your Own Business Card and Redefining Success 

00:45:21 – The Great Resignation: Knowing When to Move On and Being Happy

00:56:24 – Tackling Modern Problems While Challenging Outdated Practices 

01:15:11 – Rethinking Normal and Using Critical Thinking When Consuming Media

01:18:39 – Mental Health: Be Proactive, It’s Ok to Ask for Help

01:33:25 – Keep Your Drama Off Social Media and Our Cringy MySpace Posts

01:39:06 – What is One Movie, Book, and Album We Would Have if Stuck on an Island


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First Generation Struggles, Cultural Appropriation, and Cobra Kai w/ Salutations – #SAP EP09 Clip

Being a child of immigrants is pretty darn hard. Your parents may have gotten you across the border, but now it’s your turn to put in that elbow grease and finish off the American Dream thing they started. In this video, Salutationsandgoodvibrations and, I will explore some of the challenges first-generation kids will have to face as they try to find the American identity for themselves and their family. 

We will also talk about some of the biases in the news when it comes to reporting crimes, the chaos of having a multicultural family, and cultural appropriation with the Asian community. I’ll tell you what, trying to find your identity as your growing up between two different cultures isn’t gonna be an easy one. But I think we owe it to our parents to give it the ol’ immigrant try, eh.

If you have a story about being a child of immigrants or some kinda wonky cultural appropriation story, share with us down below…..and if you like it (sigh, I hate saying this) like, subscribe, comment, the whole jazz. . .please.

Oh yeah, we talk a bunch about Cobra Kai!

Link to #sorryasianparents EP09 – https://youtu.be/yxjOOZYj7dc

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/#sorryasianparents Blog – https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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#sorryasianparents EP12 – AAPI Hate Crimes: Exploring Anti-Asian Rhetoric and the Model Minority

Before I even start, I want to say !!!TRIGGER WARNING!!! We will be talking about racism, hate crimes, recent attacks, sexual assault stuff, and other sensitive but real matters at hand.

Well, anywho, I got a new episode for you. . .but this time, it’s not gonna be a comedy thing. My friends Xtina, Jerome, and Erin will be joining me to talk about the recent hate crimes against Asian Americans Pacific Islanders.

In this episode, we talk about the “What about me?” mentality, racism within the AAPI community, try to figure out why there’s so much tension between other people of color and Asians, BLM vs AAPI, dealing with friends and family members who might not be so . . . nice, and everything else I mentioned or didn’t mention in the beginning.

I was super nervous about this recording because the subject just hits so close to home. I was so worried that I forgot to check my mic and lighting settings. I know it doesn’t excuse the shitty audio quality, but I’m sorry. I tried to fix it and spent almost 10 hours listening to the same 10 seconds repeatedly. Despite the recording being three hours long, I trimmed some stuff (which I will release as small clips).

So I hope y’all will, I guess, enjoy the show. Some stuff I want to mention: AWA was started in the Bay Area, I was wrong. And the importance of empathy and realizing the enemy is not one race but a system within America we have to change. We have to be careful not to weaponize our cause against anyone else; everyone’s experience is valid and their own. Below I linked a bunch of resources for more information. There are also sites where you can report hate crimes and get legal help.

If you have a story you would like to share, leave a comment down below….and you know, do the like and subscribe thing.

                                   ***Resources***

Asians With Attitudes Website:
https://asianswithattitudes.com/

Stop AAPI Hate Website:
https://stopaapihate.org/

OCA – Asian Pacific America Advocates Hate Crime Report:
https://www.aapihatecrimes.org/

National Asian Pacific American Bar Association (A non-profit for legal help): https://www.napaba.org/

Asian American Bar Association of New York (if you want to get lawyered up?): https://www.aabany.org/page/933

                               ***News Articles***

Time: How to Help Combat Anti-Asian Violence –
https://time.com/5947603/how-to-help-fight-anti-asian-violence/

Asian Americans Advancing Justice: Tell Your Story. Help Us Track Hate
https://www.standagainsthatred.org/stories

CNN: Why Hate Crime Data Can’t Capture the True Scope of Anti-Asian Violence
https://www.cnn.com/2021/03/18/us/hate-crime-reporting-anti-asian-violence/index.html

PBS: What Advocates and Lawmakers Are Doing to Address Growing Anti-Asian Hate Crimes
https://www.pbs.org/newshour/politics/what-advocates-and-lawmakers-are-doing-to-address-growing-anti-asian-hate-crimes

Timestamps
00:00 – Intros
01:23 – Xtina and Jerome’s Thoughts on the Rise in AAPI Hate Crimes
05:30 – Who are the Asian Americans? Asian Identity Crisis in America
12:12 – Hate Crimes vs Crimes of Opportunity, Daniel Wu and W. Kamau Bell Interview
17:10 – Anti-Asian Redoric (Kung-Flu), Model Minority Myth Division, and Colorism within AAPI
30:00 – What About Me? BLM vs AAPI: Trying to Understand the Divide
39:00 – AAPI Identity: What does it mean to be Asian Asian American?
46:38 – Growing Up Asian American in Visalia/Central Valley and My Experience with Racism
53:45 – You Can’t Just Blame White People or Black, Brown, Whatever People for Problems
1:00:30 – Maybe AAPI Deserves This Hate, We Brought This Upon Ourselves?
1:04:47 – Education and Exposure to Different Races and Cultures are Important!
1:12:37 – Modifying Our Language for Racists and Sympathizers, The Spectrum of Racisms
1:22:09 – Combating AAPI Conservatism: Without Empathy, People Won’t Change
1:31:00 – Standing with the AAPI Community: Who is the Enemy of the AAPI Movement?
1:38:45 – What if You’re a Bystander Witnessing a Hate Crime? Asian With Attitude
1:44:16 – Erin Telling Us About His Experience at the Stop Asian Hate Rally in Oakland
1:51:42 – Touching on the Discrimination/Racism within the Asian American Community
1:54:26 – Fetishization of Asian Women (Incel Culture) and Emasculation of Asian Males

1:58:21 – The Fetishization of Asian Males (Twink Stereotype) in the LGBQ+ Community
2:06:29 – Asians With Attitude and Stop AAPI Hate Organizing and Rallying People
2:08:00 – Closing Thoughts and Saying Goodbye

sorryasianparents Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

sorryasianparents Blog:

https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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My Insecurities at SFSU and My Love For The Stifmeister – #SAP EP09 (Clip)

In this clip, I talk about how it was hard for me to open up in college due to my high school education insecurities. It was no secret that being a child of Asian immigrants, we don’t value arts and literature as highly as “practical” subjects. *cough* math, science, doctor *cough*

Growing up, I never read for fun. I only read when school forced me to write a paper. I only read what I needed to read that I couldn’t get off SparkNotes and the early days of Wikipedia. So, entering college, I did not have a deep connection with the arts and literature. This wasn’t much of a problem during my GE-fraternity-rave-party days. But when I declared Creative Writing as a major at San Francisco State University, I was at a huge disadvantage. Thus, making me very insecure with my opinions in my classes. I was not as well read as some of my writing peers.

Of course, being the immature person I was, I took this very personally and lashed out in my workshops and literary discourse. Instead of putting myself out there and trying to participate, I instead choose to try and play a stereotype, what those “hipster” kids in my classes probably thought of me. Yes, I know, I was stupid. But hey, we are always learning and growing, right?

Well, anyway, I hope you enjoy this clip about my painful journey into the arts. If you are also felt like college was intimidating let me know down below…or if you also wanna share your love for Seann William Scott or country music line dancing or WHATEVER!!!

*This video is a clip from #SAP EP09 “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski poem discussion with Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations. So the audio is still distorted and Cpt Ahab picture was replaced. And yes, I know the thumbnail isn’t grammatically correct.

*This video is a clip from #SAP EP09 “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski poem discussion with Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations. So the audio is still distorted and Cpt Ahab picture was replaced. And yes, I know the thumbnail isn’t grammatically correct.

 

#sorryasianparents EP09 link in bio or here:

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Blog:
https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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#sorryasianparents EP10 – Unlearning the Lies We Learned (This is 30)

Hi hi,

It’s no secret that getting older sucks. Having already survived a year or two as thirty-year-olds, we all know that the memes of random aches and pains are true. However, one of the things about growing up is that we have come to learn that the things we learned while growing up turned out to be not true…Whew, that’s a mouth full. What I meant was: as we got older, we realized some of the things we learned turned out to be lies.

In this video, Salutationsandgoodvibrations, Brooke, Juju, and I discuss some of the things we had to unlearn as we got older. Of course, all of this sounds pretty gloomy. But don’t worry, our (or mainly mine) cautionary tales are wrapped in a blanket of warm laughter. Cuz, you know, the 30s are supposed to be the best years of your life…or so they say.

So let’s have some fun and complain, like the old souls we are. For there is no better time than now to channel our inner “ I am too old for this shit” Roger Murtaugh (from the Lethal Weapon movies) and poke fun at our decaying bodies.

ALSO!!!! I have corrected some of the information I said in the video. On the screen will be some CORRECTIONS THAT I HAVE MADE.

If you’ve ever laughed at a Life Alert meme but then felt like it hit too close to home, then feel free to share your story below.

 

Timestamps
00:00 – Cold Open
00:34 – Introductions To Everyone
01:43 – Ted Cruz Memes And The Movie Titanic
06:00 – When We Realized We Aren’t Young Anymore (MILF AV)
16:45 – High School Friends, And Xanga, And MySpace
28:00 – Being Immature In High School
30:24 – Don’t Creep On Girls On The DanceFloor and Going To A Gay Club
35:02 – Disadvantageous Expectations For Our 30s (And D!cK Pic Rant)
46:10 – Blame It On Society, Sexuality, And The Gay Agenda
51:28 – Is Technology Catching Up To Hate In America Or Is This A New Movement?
55:15 – American Dream? Model Minority? Us vs Them? Unlearning Racist History
1:13:21 – Oh Visalia, We Talk Smack But We Still Love The Central Valley
1:21:12 – Thai Music Looks Like A Slowmotion Lightshow
1:25:19 – Dating In Your 30s And Kids (Recommended Tinder/Bumble Settings)
1:37:04 – Juju Love Story, Blackout Wednesdays In Visalia, And Hangovers In Your 30s
1:44:46 – Closing Remarks And Saying Goodbye

 

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

 

 


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Disappointing My Asian Parents With My English Degree and Not Doctor – #SAP EP09 (CLIP)

 

In this clip, I’m talking about how I eventually decided on choosing Creative Writing as my major at San Francisco State University. Being a first-generation Asian American in your family to go to a four-year university and deciding to become a writer is not something any immigrant parents want to hear. But to be fair, I took three and a half years to pick a major after realizing that you can’t major in Partying with a minor in Beer Pong. So there was no chance in hell I was gonna be a doctor. . .or lawyer. . .or whatever stereotypical model minority career my parents wanted.

Imagine escaping Laos and Thailand during the Vietnam War just to see their firstborn pick a prospering career as a writer. But I guess at this point; I’m more of an entertainer…or clown…whichever.

Salutationsandgoodvibrations and I also talk about some of the challenges we had growing up in Visalia. And believe me, there were many. In my case, it was how I viewed education, arts, and literature. I didn’t read too much in my own free time since my parents put more of an emphasis on subjects that would traditionally generate more money.

My parents weren’t the only ones who thought the arts were unnecessary in the Asian college plan. The friends I grew up with also weren’t too keen on the idea of being books smarts. Instead, we goons focused more on street smarts, believing that arts and education weren’t meant for kids from the block. Luckily, we grew out of this hoodrat mentality as we grew older.

Lots of stuff to unpack here. You’ll hear about how we found our passions and the obstacles we jumped **cough** getting out of Visalia right after high school **cough** to pursue our dreams. Don’t worry; these painful anecdotes of self-discovery aren’t too cringy if you sprinkle some dark humor on the trauma.

If you want to share your story about being Asian, or Asian American, or just as someone who felt they let their parents down, feel free to comment below. Let’s share and wallow because misery loves company.

*This video is a clip from #SAP EP09 “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski poem discussion with Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations. So the audio is still distorted and Cpt Ahab picture was replaced. And yes, I know the thumbnail isn’t grammatically correct.

#sorryasianparents EP09 link in bio or here:

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Blog:
https://www.sorryasianparents.com/