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#sorryasianparents EP10 – Unlearning the Lies We Learned (This is 30)

Hi hi,

It’s no secret that getting older sucks. Having already survived a year or two as thirty-year-olds, we all know that the memes of random aches and pains are true. However, one of the things about growing up is that we have come to learn that the things we learned while growing up turned out to be not true…Whew, that’s a mouth full. What I meant was: as we got older, we realized some of the things we learned turned out to be lies.

In this video, Salutationsandgoodvibrations, Brooke, Juju, and I discuss some of the things we had to unlearn as we got older. Of course, all of this sounds pretty gloomy. But don’t worry, our (or mainly mine) cautionary tales are wrapped in a blanket of warm laughter. Cuz, you know, the 30s are supposed to be the best years of your life…or so they say.

So let’s have some fun and complain, like the old souls we are. For there is no better time than now to channel our inner “ I am too old for this shit” Roger Murtaugh (from the Lethal Weapon movies) and poke fun at our decaying bodies.

ALSO!!!! I have corrected some of the information I said in the video. On the screen will be some CORRECTIONS THAT I HAVE MADE.

If you’ve ever laughed at a Life Alert meme but then felt like it hit too close to home, then feel free to share your story below.

 

Timestamps
00:00 – Cold Open
00:34 – Introductions To Everyone
01:43 – Ted Cruz Memes And The Movie Titanic
06:00 – When We Realized We Aren’t Young Anymore (MILF AV)
16:45 – High School Friends, And Xanga, And MySpace
28:00 – Being Immature In High School
30:24 – Don’t Creep On Girls On The DanceFloor and Going To A Gay Club
35:02 – Disadvantageous Expectations For Our 30s (And D!cK Pic Rant)
46:10 – Blame It On Society, Sexuality, And The Gay Agenda
51:28 – Is Technology Catching Up To Hate In America Or Is This A New Movement?
55:15 – American Dream? Model Minority? Us vs Them? Unlearning Racist History
1:13:21 – Oh Visalia, We Talk Smack But We Still Love The Central Valley
1:21:12 – Thai Music Looks Like A Slowmotion Lightshow
1:25:19 – Dating In Your 30s And Kids (Recommended Tinder/Bumble Settings)
1:37:04 – Juju Love Story, Blackout Wednesdays In Visalia, And Hangovers In Your 30s
1:44:46 – Closing Remarks And Saying Goodbye

 

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

 

 


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Disappointing My Asian Parents With My English Degree and Not Doctor – #SAP EP09 (CLIP)

 

In this clip, I’m talking about how I eventually decided on choosing Creative Writing as my major at San Francisco State University. Being a first-generation Asian American in your family to go to a four-year university and deciding to become a writer is not something any immigrant parents want to hear. But to be fair, I took three and a half years to pick a major after realizing that you can’t major in Partying with a minor in Beer Pong. So there was no chance in hell I was gonna be a doctor. . .or lawyer. . .or whatever stereotypical model minority career my parents wanted.

Imagine escaping Laos and Thailand during the Vietnam War just to see their firstborn pick a prospering career as a writer. But I guess at this point; I’m more of an entertainer…or clown…whichever.

Salutationsandgoodvibrations and I also talk about some of the challenges we had growing up in Visalia. And believe me, there were many. In my case, it was how I viewed education, arts, and literature. I didn’t read too much in my own free time since my parents put more of an emphasis on subjects that would traditionally generate more money.

My parents weren’t the only ones who thought the arts were unnecessary in the Asian college plan. The friends I grew up with also weren’t too keen on the idea of being books smarts. Instead, we goons focused more on street smarts, believing that arts and education weren’t meant for kids from the block. Luckily, we grew out of this hoodrat mentality as we grew older.

Lots of stuff to unpack here. You’ll hear about how we found our passions and the obstacles we jumped **cough** getting out of Visalia right after high school **cough** to pursue our dreams. Don’t worry; these painful anecdotes of self-discovery aren’t too cringy if you sprinkle some dark humor on the trauma.

If you want to share your story about being Asian, or Asian American, or just as someone who felt they let their parents down, feel free to comment below. Let’s share and wallow because misery loves company.

*This video is a clip from #SAP EP09 “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski poem discussion with Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations. So the audio is still distorted and Cpt Ahab picture was replaced. And yes, I know the thumbnail isn’t grammatically correct.

#sorryasianparents EP09 link in bio or here:

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Blog:
https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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Eternal Vibe Tribe Gives Advice on Finding Your Tribe – #SAP EP07

 

The lads from EVT give some advice on finding your tribe. I know it’s hard picking your friends or the right rave family to open your heart to; trust me, I know. It took me a while to feel like I was good enough to be loved and to love. I’m not an expert at making friends, which is why Harman, Devin, Kevin, and Michael are here to help me try and explain how to? Iono, I’m weird, and feelings are hard. DON’T LOOK AT ME. I’M A MONSTER.

If you would like to share your story about how you found your tribe, let us know in the comment section below.

ALSO!!!! The posting date of this clip is Feb 17th, 2021. It’s also the date for two members of the EVTs birthdays: Kevin and Harpreet!!! So happy bday and I wish the best to your health and happiness.

Original Video Link:

The Most EPIC EDC Mini-Documentary!!

Triple Birthday After Movie 2015

Our EPIC TomorrowWorld 2015 After Movie!!

Journey Through Electric Forest (EVT)

U4IK

The Real DLR

SNRG


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#sorryasianparents EP09 – Bukowski Quotes About Going 100 w Cpt Ahab & Salutationsandgoodvibrations

Hello, hello,

Welcome back. I’m back home in Los Angeles, where I finally have time to put some finishing touches on a video to upload. In this episode, my friends Salutationsandgoodvibrations and Cpt Ahab are with me to talk about the poem “Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski.

What does it mean to “go all the way”? How do you define success? Why do people be fronting on these social media sites and dating apps? These are the questions we will be discussing in this video. I don’t know if you will find a clear answer during your time with us, but I’m sure you’ll have a few good laughs.

Alongside these philosophical questions of pursuing your passions, I will also be discussing how I decided to major in Creative Writing at San Francisco State University. As well as briefly discussing how growing up in Visalia influenced my views on art and literature, how I disappointed my Asian parents about my career choice, and about how much I love Seann William Scott. Yes, the Stifmeister.

I apologize in advance if this video sounds like a conversation between a bunch of bored college kids. Well, I mean, what else are we gonna do during quarantine. Also, the audio’s pitch is a little high, and Ahab’s picture is covered by your friendly neighborhood Asian: me. This was intentional. So, yeah. Sorry about that, too.

But I hope you guys do enjoy the video. Feel free to comment below if you have something to say about the poem written by this German-American poet or if you just wanna share how you view success.

“Going All The Way” by Charles Bukowski

If you’re going to try, go all the way.
Otherwise, don’t even start.
If you’re going to try, go all the way.
This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives, jobs and maybe even your mind.
It could mean not eating for three or four days.
It could mean freezing on a park bench.
It could mean jail.
It could mean derision, mockery, isolation.
Isolation is the gift.
All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it.
And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds.
And it will be better than anything else you can imagine.
If you’re going to try, go all the way.
There is no other feeling like that.
You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire.
DO IT. DO IT. DO IT. All the way
You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is.

Timestamps
00:00 – Intro
00:29 – Cpt Ahab Starts Us Off By Reading The Bukowski Quote
01:18 – What Does “Going All The Way Means”?
05:00 – Pursuing Your Dreams And The Value Of An Creative Writing Degree
10:10 – You Have To Put In The Work To Get What You Want In Life
17:30 – Attempt Different Things To Define Your Own Version Of Success
20:57 – Disappointing My Asian Parents By Picking An English Major In College
28:38 – Growing Up In Visalia And How We Handled Education
36:25 – How Visalias’ Environment And Immigrant Cultural Influenced My View On Art
40:00 – Me Feeling Insecure About My Lack of Literature Knowledge At SFSU
41:27 – Me Telling My Playwriting Class My Favorite Actor Is Seann William Scott
46:47 – The Authetisicty Of Your Opinions VS What Everyone Else Thought Was Cool
50:18 – What Is Even Real On Social Media And Dating Apps? Just Be Yourself
57:53 – Line Dancing At The Saddle Rack and Saying Goodbye To Cpt Ahab

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

Salutationsandgoodvibrations Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/salutationsandgoodvibrations/

Weebthusiast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Blog:
https://www.sorryasianparents.com/


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#sorryasianparents EP08 – WallStreetBets, GameStop, and Reddit: Millennials Using the Internet

 

Emilio, Justice, Rocky, and I discuss the recent Reddit vs. Wall Street Stock Market War. WE ARE NOT A FINANCIAL ADVISING CHANNEL NOR EXPERTS. We are just a couple of average Joes trying to make sense of all this craziness and having a conversation about the stuff that happened. So please, take what we say with a grain of salt. But the two things that I did learn was that if we all work together, we can cyber bull those a-holes who are screwing us and meme our dreams into reality.

Honestly, no matter where you stand on this GME thing, I’m glad it happened because now people my age, from different social and ethnic classes, who never thought about their financial future, are now getting into investing. Growing up poor and lacking the knowledge about the market, I know I didn’t even give it a second thought besides a 401k or IRA.

Though there are still many things to learn, this baby step is in the right direction. The Internet (YouTube, Reddit, Discord, and Blogs) are great places to learn and dip your toes if you are intimidated by all the information or seeing a financial advisor. If you can afford it and don’t want to deal with it, get a FA. Heck, I’m still learning, but now I know I’m not alone.

PS, I want to apologize if the video seemed a little rushed….because it was. I had to leave town for some business and did not have time to edit properly. Nor write a good/witty description. There’s also more to this video that I had to cut out. When I return, I’ll add the rest of the video and add timestamps.

#sorryasianparents EP06 – Learning About Investing: https://youtu.be/VuGMdSdOK28

Weebthusiast YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiDfoqzX4A-Khlw7ODG_qTw

#sorryasianparents YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAAPUjWCbTcS1w3fiGwXcdg

Laughinoutlao Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/laughinoutlao

Weebthusiast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/


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Playing HS Football in Visalia and the Fat Airec Chant – #SAP EP03

 

With a bunch of free time on my hands, I decided to go back and clip some of my older videos. This here video is from EP03 with Kevin, Andrew, and Chris, where we are talking about growing up in Visalia. In this clip, we talk about some cringy things we did in high school and talked about what it was like to play on a losing football team. It’s ok to laugh at us; I know I would. 

If you have any stories about high school and football growing pains, feel free to write them down below.

 

Video link right here:

https://youtu.be/TnoPsp3nB7Q

Original video:

https://youtu.be/AwswaggRZ7Y

Weebthusiast Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Instagram:

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#sorryasianparents Blog:

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I Miss Being Weird At Anime Conventions – Weebthusiast

 

Man, I miss anime conventions. But, you know, 2020 was the year of everything getting canceled. In this special clip, Emilio, Garret, and I are just talking about anime cons. We quickly touch on Fanime, Crunchyroll Expo, and Anime Los Angeles. You will get a chance to hear about some of the cool things we have experienced, the weird, and our past/future cosplay ideas. This video isn’t a full episode, but it’s still a great chuckle.

Usually, I would release a whole hour+ episode before I clip the video, but (not going to lie) we kind of went off the rails and just spitball hella subjects. So it didn’t make sense trying to make a coherent episode out of our ADHD conversation. Don’t worry; I’m still going to create long-form content that many won’t watch in the future. I guess this is a good chance for you to see how much of a weeb I am…especially when I get on a rant about after con dances, the H-tai room at Fanime, and other weird stuff I said. So please, enjoy. 

If you also miss anime conventions or have any cosplay ideas, please let me know in the comments below. Bye-bye.

PS, I made a mistake. Not all Anime Cons have free games. You can either borrow a system or play the free games there, but some machines you will have to pay to play (like DDR).

 

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

00:25 – Fanime, The Anime Viewing Rooms, And The 18+ H-Night

04:00 – Anime Los Angeles And The After-Con “Rave”

08:18 – I Love Nerding Out With Other Anime Fans

09:27 – The Gaming Rooms At Anime Conventions

12:00 – Cosplaying

 

My #sorryasianparents YouTube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAAPUjWCbTcS1w3fiGwXcdg

Laughinoutlao Twitch:

https://www.twitch.tv/laughinoutlao

Weebthusiast Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/weebthusiast/

#sorryasianparents Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/sorryasianparents/

#sorryasianparents Blog:

https://www.sorryasianparents.com/

 


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#sorryasianparents EP07 – Meeting The Eternal Vibe Tribe

 

Hi hi,

Festivals have been a massive part of my life. In a time when I was discovering my love for a genre of music once labeled for losers and outcasts, my rave family was there to help me find a sense of home and feel accepted. Compared to my Asian upbringing, my expeditions under the Electric Skys with the ZipperSquad helped me find and freed a wilder, weirder, and more affectionate part of myself I didn’t know was there. 

On this episode of #sorryasianparents, I am lucky to have Harman, Devin, Kevin, and Michael sit down with me to share their own story about their chosen family: Eternal Vibe Tribe. A group of unique individuals who managed to catch lightning in a bottle at a Dada Life show in some Chicago club through a serendipitous series of events. 

To be honest, I chuckled when Kevin called his EVT brothers shamans of music. Being Asian, I imagined their near 100 members wearing traditional clothes and dancing underneath a bass-heavy tent. However, by the end of the video, I knew he was right. 

From start to finish, I couldn’t help but feel overcome by their affection and spirit as these four cheerfully narrated their journey to me. When our meeting was over, I knew that their bond transcended music festivals’ boundaries as they continue to support one another in their everyday lives.

If you enjoyed their story or want to share your own story, comment down below. I would love to hear it, especially during this time of isolation.  

 

Timestamps

00:00 – Shooting the Shizznats

00:38 – Welcoming Kev, Dev, Harman, and Mike

01:50 – What Does EVT Stand For? And Their Origin Story

13:30 – The Rave Scene in the Midwest and How Everyone Got into the Electronic Dance Music

20:28 – How Friends Became Family After EDC Chicago 2013

32:32 – Describing Their First EDC Experience

38:26 – Comparing Raves and Music Festivals Outside of California

40:00 – EVT Heads to EDC 2016 in Vegas 

44:00 – Comparing EDC to TomorrowWorld and TW 2013 Connections IRL

47:15 – How Many People Are in EVT? And EDC 2016 Stories

54:00 – EDC 2016 Favorite Moment w/ Above & Beyond and The Rally

1:02:30 – Electric Forest

1:06:15 – Harman’s Memorable Moment w/ EVT

1:07:47 – Dev’s Memorable Moment at Electric Forest 2019

1:09:23 – Mike’s Memorable Moment at TomorrowWorld 2015

1:13:30 – Kev Remembering All Great Sucky Times Together and EF 2018 Storm

1:23:00 – The Birth of The Real DLR, U4IK & SNRG

1:37:02 – EVT Supporting Eachother in Many Different Ways

1:41:55 – Advice on Finding Your Own Tribe/Be Yourself

1:49:05 – Saying Our Goodbyes

 

The Most EPIC EDC Mini-Documentary!!

https://youtu.be/gnFBXkf1jX0

Triple Birthday After Movie 2015

https://youtu.be/iHQQlo119CU

Our EPIC TomorrowWorld 2015 After Movie!!

https://youtu.be/5Omls4VLIUQ

Journey Through Electric Forest (EVT)

https://youtu.be/Ffjzu57AKvo

U4IK

https://soundcloud.com/u4ikmusicofficial

The Real DLR

https://soundcloud.com/therealdlr

SNRG

https://soundcloud.com/snrgsound

 


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My COVID Story and Trying to Remember High School Bio – #SAP EP01.3

 

This video is part of the original recording I did with Daniel for my #sorryasianparents YouTube Channel. In this clip, I’m telling him about my COVID experience…Then we horribly try to explain how a virus works using our English Degree from SFSU. Boy, our biology teachers would be mad. We deff fail at this Asian part of our lives. All for laughs, am I right?


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#sorryasianparents EP06 – Better Late Than Never: Finally Becoming Invested In Our Financial Future

Heeeellloooo,

I am back and this time with some new faces. Truth be told, I don’t know anything about finances. And it’s probably not surprising that many millennials, who also grew up poor, don’t “got dat money smarts” either. Thankfully, I have Rocky, Robert, Jan, and Josh here to explain to me stuff I should have known before I racked up all that credit card debt.

Join us as we talk about the stock market, cryptocurrency, big banks, the lack of financial education within the American public education system, and many more. I’m sure you’re tired of hearing that one friend who knows-it-all yap on about Bitcoin. Which is why I think you’ll enjoy a bunch of amateurs give their take on coins and stocks and what it all means for someone just dipping their feet in the investment pool.

A fair warning, even though we do give out some advice based on our investing journey, please take it with a grain of salt. Like a few of your bankers, we are not fiduciaries. What we know we learned from Reddit, YouTube, and failing. If you want some hardcore advice, then you’re probably in the wrong place. This video is just for some laughs as we discuss our scary, uncertain financial future. Oh, these student loans!!!